Be the change you wish to see in this world.~Mahatma Gandhi
What a magnificent quote! Something had moved me from the very first day I saw it. I did not know much about Gandhi and didn't realize what a wonderful man he was promoting peace and leading India to independence. Officially honored as the "Father of the Nation" in India. He was a Great Man and someone to be truly admired.
It really made me think about how we live our lives and how we are so quick to point fingers of the way things are in this world. Good, bad or indifferent. We must realize we have the ability to make a change; to be that change. It is all within ourselves to make that difference. We can complain all we want about the things we feel are unjust and unfair, but if we don't find it within ourselves to decide to be a part of making that change, then it is us who contribute to it's continuous existence.
So many of walk through life afraid. Fearful of so many things, especially change. Feeding into our fears just creates more and more. Where we find at one point in life it has completely paralyzed us. As my father has always said, " change is good". Of course he was talking to the waiter or waitress at the restaurant when he would pay the bill and they would say, "Do you need change?" or "Would you like change?". I still crack up to this day when I think about it, not realizing he was sending me a message at a very young age. Change is GOOD!!!
This world is filled with a lot of bullshit. Lots of misconceptions, misleading and many times manipulating. Why feed into it? We need to make a difference, especially for our children. Teaching them that anything is possible, dreaming BIG is the only way to dream. That in order to become the outstanding, loving and respectful citizens of this beautiful universe, BE THAT CHANGE!!! Make an impact and inspire others. Find beauty, love and inspiration in all that is around and believe that reaching for the stars is not just something they read in their storybooks when they were kids. Belief in yourself is the foundation for which reaching for those stars is completely possible. It will only help to shine their light and make it even brighter.
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Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Sunday, April 15, 2012
Forty plus and Fabulous
The title of this just jumped out at me. When you get to this age of 40 plus you kind of feel you have a new lease on life. A feeling of wanting to do things you had always wanted to do but for some reason made some excuse not to. Or be adventurous and conquer some fears. Maybe para sailing or bungee jumping. Get a tattoo or buy a new outfit that in the past you would have never had the nerve to wear.
It is all about a new found freedom. A new sense of self and possibly finding a new path in which to take. For me it has become a journey of self discovery and spiritualism. Creating a new self. A transformation of sorts. Like the caterpillar turning into the radiant and colorful butterfly. Spreading her wings and ready to soar taking on the beauty all around her.
You realize that all that has come before are just life's lessons hopefully learned. Practicing with mind and heart the ways in which to handle different situations and not to overreact, create a frenzy and most importantly make sure that you don't allow life's challenges and curve balls to overwhelm you. Overwhelmed into a state of being paralyzed. Whereby the enjoyment of the most simplest pleasures becomes non-existent.
Forty plus and Fabulous has been so wonderfully rewarding. I am proud to tell my age and have people say to me, "Wow you look younger" or someone told me just recently, " You are aging gracefully". That one was a first. And I take them all proudly. Honestly what I want most and I am sure all would agree is to be happy, healthy and be on that path of life where we are learning and growing. Working at each and everyday to be the best we can be. Never taking life for granted and being blessed for all that we are and what we are yet to become.
It is all about a new found freedom. A new sense of self and possibly finding a new path in which to take. For me it has become a journey of self discovery and spiritualism. Creating a new self. A transformation of sorts. Like the caterpillar turning into the radiant and colorful butterfly. Spreading her wings and ready to soar taking on the beauty all around her.
You realize that all that has come before are just life's lessons hopefully learned. Practicing with mind and heart the ways in which to handle different situations and not to overreact, create a frenzy and most importantly make sure that you don't allow life's challenges and curve balls to overwhelm you. Overwhelmed into a state of being paralyzed. Whereby the enjoyment of the most simplest pleasures becomes non-existent.
Forty plus and Fabulous has been so wonderfully rewarding. I am proud to tell my age and have people say to me, "Wow you look younger" or someone told me just recently, " You are aging gracefully". That one was a first. And I take them all proudly. Honestly what I want most and I am sure all would agree is to be happy, healthy and be on that path of life where we are learning and growing. Working at each and everyday to be the best we can be. Never taking life for granted and being blessed for all that we are and what we are yet to become.
Saturday, April 14, 2012
MID LIFE CRISIS OR EXTREME CURIOUSITY?
Do you ever feel like you are kind of lost in this world? Or you get to a certain age and you look at where you have been, how far you have come and that there is so much more still out there yet to see, experience and be. Am I in a "MID LIFE Crisis"? I am at a point in my life where I feel myself constantly questioning things. I had posed this question on my status post on Facebook. With the intentions of reaching out to other ladies who are 40+ and just seeing if anyone else has experienced this.
I got one person's feedback so far. Someone who understood similarly. It seems we search through out our whole lives wondering can I be happy, do I want more, have I done enough, what else is out there for me. So many things that at times will make yourself go crazy. Where you really feel like you are going to lose it.
Each and everyone of us has stress in our lives and of course the main thing is how we deal with it. How can we stay in control and not lose our mind with work, family, relationships, children, etc.? The pressures of life can overwhelm any of us in a major way. It takes a lifetime of learning how to deal with these stresses the best way we know how.
I am the type of person who at times can be a little out of control, I overact, and become very emotional. Then I begin to over analyze, or let my emotions get the best of me.. Which then would lead to thinking, well maybe I deserve it. Self-sabotage kicks in and then of course the main addiction of mine, FOOD!!!! It is a vicious cycle which I have tried so damn hard to control. I feel I have been doing so well staying in control. Knowing what I should and should not be doing. And that is calming myself down, getting my head straight and not running to the refrigerator to shove something in my mouth to calm myself down.
Life can be so stifling at times. But of course life is what we make of it. It is how we control and handle everything that comes our way. Being strong, confident, self-assured and self-worthy of all of life's goodness does help in the task at hand. Then they are moments of weakness. How can we be strong all the time? Reaching out for someone who you can talk to and share your thoughts and feelings is so important. Some of us are lucky and blessed to have those people in our lives. Which makes it all the more sweeter.
I just shake my head sometimes and wonder what the hell is going on. What mistakes have I made? Were those mistakes made for a reason to learn from them? To become a better person? To grow and move on from it in hopes that those mistakes won't be made again? Constantly questioning things, situations, people, can make you go a little stir crazy. Honestly, the feeling of running away and getting away from it all sounds so appealing at times. But then reality sets in really quick and you must deal with it and not run away. Isn't that the "chicken" way out of it? Nothing was ever solved from running away in hopes it would disappear on it's own.
I am adult now. A 41 year old woman with a family and responsibilities. But at times I kind of wish I was a kid again. Not that it would make anything better, just that the realities of life as an adult can really stink. And then when you get to that age of "MID LIFE", either in your 40's or 50's, you can't help but look at the whole picture and say what if. That saying which I hear so quite often " The grass isn't always greener on the other side", is so true at times but you really can't help to think that if you never take that leap, how will you ever know. You take your chances going into with full knowledge, good or bad you made that decision and you deal with it as such. No regrets!!! Only LIVE AND LEARN!!!!
I got one person's feedback so far. Someone who understood similarly. It seems we search through out our whole lives wondering can I be happy, do I want more, have I done enough, what else is out there for me. So many things that at times will make yourself go crazy. Where you really feel like you are going to lose it.
Each and everyone of us has stress in our lives and of course the main thing is how we deal with it. How can we stay in control and not lose our mind with work, family, relationships, children, etc.? The pressures of life can overwhelm any of us in a major way. It takes a lifetime of learning how to deal with these stresses the best way we know how.
I am the type of person who at times can be a little out of control, I overact, and become very emotional. Then I begin to over analyze, or let my emotions get the best of me.. Which then would lead to thinking, well maybe I deserve it. Self-sabotage kicks in and then of course the main addiction of mine, FOOD!!!! It is a vicious cycle which I have tried so damn hard to control. I feel I have been doing so well staying in control. Knowing what I should and should not be doing. And that is calming myself down, getting my head straight and not running to the refrigerator to shove something in my mouth to calm myself down.
Life can be so stifling at times. But of course life is what we make of it. It is how we control and handle everything that comes our way. Being strong, confident, self-assured and self-worthy of all of life's goodness does help in the task at hand. Then they are moments of weakness. How can we be strong all the time? Reaching out for someone who you can talk to and share your thoughts and feelings is so important. Some of us are lucky and blessed to have those people in our lives. Which makes it all the more sweeter.
I just shake my head sometimes and wonder what the hell is going on. What mistakes have I made? Were those mistakes made for a reason to learn from them? To become a better person? To grow and move on from it in hopes that those mistakes won't be made again? Constantly questioning things, situations, people, can make you go a little stir crazy. Honestly, the feeling of running away and getting away from it all sounds so appealing at times. But then reality sets in really quick and you must deal with it and not run away. Isn't that the "chicken" way out of it? Nothing was ever solved from running away in hopes it would disappear on it's own.
I am adult now. A 41 year old woman with a family and responsibilities. But at times I kind of wish I was a kid again. Not that it would make anything better, just that the realities of life as an adult can really stink. And then when you get to that age of "MID LIFE", either in your 40's or 50's, you can't help but look at the whole picture and say what if. That saying which I hear so quite often " The grass isn't always greener on the other side", is so true at times but you really can't help to think that if you never take that leap, how will you ever know. You take your chances going into with full knowledge, good or bad you made that decision and you deal with it as such. No regrets!!! Only LIVE AND LEARN!!!!
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Am I really beautiful after all?
Mirror Mirror on the wall, what do I really see after all? Is my beauty only seen and felt when I don't feel like a fat ugly monster? Is that what I have told myself so many times in the past, that I would convince myself I wasn't worth a "hill of beans"? The lies I would continue to tell myself so I would believe it was actually true.
Was it the outer beauty that would only make me feel worthy of anything, a conversation with someone, or any interest of what I had to say. This is how bad it can be, that I would create in my mind. It is what a lot of girls do especially at a very young age when they are most vulnerable and easy influenced. Where feeling popular or "fitting in" is what young girls think is most important. It is unfortunate that this distorted way of thinking carries out into adulthood. But later on in life we get smarter or at least some do. We realize that if others don't like us for who we really are inside, it is completely their loss. They are not worth our time.
There is no doubt in my mind, this type of behavior and way of thinking stems from earlier on in life. I know that some of my past blogs had focused on the feelings of low self esteem, lack of self worth, which indeed I do believe comes from childhood. And that it carries through into adulthood. Some of us find ourselves in therapy, dealing with all these issues and emotions we felt when in grammar school, junior high school and then into high school. Our past and dealing with family issues. It can paralyze us so badly. It affects relationships with our families, friends and our love relationships.
A woman at times will always find something, some flaw, some imperfection that stands in the way of what she actually is. A beautiful feminine being. Will I only feel that I am beautiful if I lose the amount of weight that I think makes me look beautiful? How stupid is that??? What the hell is wrong with me!!?? What about the type of person I am? What about what is in my heart and how I love? Isn't that enough? The desire in which to make others feel loved and feel special. To know that I have made someone smile, made them laugh, made them understand they are a blessing in my life. That is what true beauty is all about. It's my spirit and letting my light shine brightly. It's making an impact, inspiring others and being inspired.
It is about time I realize that I am really beautiful after all.
Was it the outer beauty that would only make me feel worthy of anything, a conversation with someone, or any interest of what I had to say. This is how bad it can be, that I would create in my mind. It is what a lot of girls do especially at a very young age when they are most vulnerable and easy influenced. Where feeling popular or "fitting in" is what young girls think is most important. It is unfortunate that this distorted way of thinking carries out into adulthood. But later on in life we get smarter or at least some do. We realize that if others don't like us for who we really are inside, it is completely their loss. They are not worth our time.
There is no doubt in my mind, this type of behavior and way of thinking stems from earlier on in life. I know that some of my past blogs had focused on the feelings of low self esteem, lack of self worth, which indeed I do believe comes from childhood. And that it carries through into adulthood. Some of us find ourselves in therapy, dealing with all these issues and emotions we felt when in grammar school, junior high school and then into high school. Our past and dealing with family issues. It can paralyze us so badly. It affects relationships with our families, friends and our love relationships.
A woman at times will always find something, some flaw, some imperfection that stands in the way of what she actually is. A beautiful feminine being. Will I only feel that I am beautiful if I lose the amount of weight that I think makes me look beautiful? How stupid is that??? What the hell is wrong with me!!?? What about the type of person I am? What about what is in my heart and how I love? Isn't that enough? The desire in which to make others feel loved and feel special. To know that I have made someone smile, made them laugh, made them understand they are a blessing in my life. That is what true beauty is all about. It's my spirit and letting my light shine brightly. It's making an impact, inspiring others and being inspired.
It is about time I realize that I am really beautiful after all.
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